2014/11/19

Our alternative to health insurance

I only sometimes use my blog as a soap box. Today is one of those days. I'm going to delve into the highly controversial world of talking about health insurance and the American health care system! Will you still be my friend?

Some of you know that we are members of Samaritan Ministries instead of having traditional health insurance. We joined in 2010 and have only grown to love it (and the other members!) the longer we are a part.

The basic premise is that we pay a "share" every month in the form of a check that we write specifically to another member with a health care related financial need. We pay for our own health care needs as self pay, but when the need exceeds what we can manage ourselves, we have a group of 35,000+ families to share our need with. So during those months, we receive checks from folks all over sharing with us. (The ministry coordinates the sharing and sends a newsletter that tell us to whom we send our share).

Here are some of the reasons we love it:

  • For most of our marriage one or both of us have been self-.employed. I'm not sure if you've ever looked at purchasing individual health insurance plans, but it's crazy. Even before we had kids and were young and relatively healthy, we were not able to find anything that was a good value for us. I also just HATE dealing with the insurance system. Can I go to this doctor? What about tests? Do I need to get that approved first? Perhaps I'm just lazy, but I don't think anyone likes the phone calls, the letters, and the WORK it takes to get and continue coverage.
  • Insurance makes you not care about the actual cost of health care. I know some of you won't agree, but I think most people with insurance don't care that their foot surgery cost $18,000, they only care about the deductible or percentage they actually paid. This is a problem for everyone, as it allow providers to continue to inflate prices to insurance companies which will, of course, make every one's health care more expensive. We have found being self pay gets us huge discounts EVERY time. My $18,000 foot surgery? That was the price they would have billed insurance. We paid just over $3,000 and were able to share that need with the other members.
  • I also think doctors/providers are willing to reduce their fees for an individual in a way that they wouldn't cut a deal to an insurance company. I mean, does anyone like insurance companies? I think even people I know with good insurance don't often sing the praises of their company. They seem to just view it as a necessary part of life. Anyway, back to my point about doctors reducing their fees for individuals....most of you know we paid only one small anesthesia bill for James entire back surgery. If we had insurance, that wouldn't have happened because they providers aren't willing to be charitable to an insurance company in the same way they are willing to be charitable to an individual.
  • It provides us yet another way to trust God. It deepens our faith and gives us another way to see Him provide for each of our needs. There's no guarantee that the other members will send their share. We hope they will, as they hope we will send ours each month. And when we trust in God and one another, we see Him provide for all that we need. And in regards to insurance, can you really trust that they are going to cover what they say they will? My friend just a few weeks ago shared with me that her insurance company said they would provide speech therapy for her daughter, then changed their mind after the therapy had started and several hundred dollars of treatment had already been received. My mother in law received a bill 14 months AFTER a surgery she had for some charge her insurance company decided not to pay.
  • I haven't read the Affordable Care Act in its entirety and am not in any way qualified to speak about it. I do know I think it would be silly for us to be have to pay a "shared responsibility payment" for not having health insurance for the US when we don't live in the US most of the time. Being a part of Samaritan Ministries gives us an exemption from having to participate in the ACA.
  • It is truly a JOY to share with others. I'm guessing that most folks with insurance aren't joyous to write the check for their premium each month or to see their payroll deduction come out of their hard-earned pay check. For us, it is truly a JOY to get to write a check directly to someone else who has a medical need.
  • It's a joy to receive from others. When we have a need being shared, each check we receive comes with a card, note, or letter from the sender. Sometimes other members go out of their way to be a blessing. We have received books, recipes, pictures colored by kids, bookmarks, and other thoughtful expressions from total strangers. Each one of those cards also represents people who are praying for our health and whatever need it is we are sharing in. Recently we had a medical need associated my miscarriage. In addition to the notes we received from those sharing in our need, we received cards from other members just to express their sympathy for our loss. Not only that, but when James called the office to request the form to share our need, the man who answered the phone asked if he could pray for us over the phone. I'm pretty sure that doesn't often happen when folks call their insurance company.

A collection of the notes/cards we received from James' kidney stone hospitalization

I think that ends my soap box for today. Now, that wasn't so bad, right? If you have questions, we really do love to share about Samaritan Ministries, so ask us anytime. 

2014/11/18

laundry mistakes and how I saved them

Of course there is back story for this post. One Sunday James and I visited a church small group where a guy was sharing something he had learned from their church's recent marriage retreat. Apparently, at the retreat they had learned, "If I'm doing it, I'm doing it right." The point was that one partner can't complain about the way the other partner loads the dishwasher, does the laundry, mows the lawn, etc, as long as they are getting it done.
THE VERY NEXT DAY James did a load of laundry. With a pen. Before I could even make a joke, he said, "I guess this is one of those times doing it isn't actually doing it right." Thankfully, there were only two garments ruined: the shirt whose pocket housed the pen and a dress of Ann's that was recently given to us by a friend.

Here were my saves:

I used this tutorial for turning James' shirt into a dress for Catherine. I didn't do the waist and I made the sleeves a bit longer than the tutorial. Cutting away shirt for the dress took out some of the ink stains. For the others, I cut out the stained fabric and placed the birds with a backing over the holes. My model wasn't super cooperative :)


Since my model wasn't very cooperative, here are some closer up.




This dress below was long sleeved. The ink was all over the sleeves and a bit on the pocket. I made it short sleeved first, but I did a very dumb thing and didn't cut off all the ink, it was just folded under the new hem on the shirt. So, the next time I washed it, it got on more of the garment.(grrrrr) So, on round two, I just made it sleeveless. There was a bit of the stain still on the pocket, so I just sewed something right over it. (hearts are easier than birds) In the top picture you can still see remnants of the stain on the pocket flap. If that doesn't come out with another round of stain remover....


 I'll just tuck it in like in this picture below. A girl of not-quite two isn't using her pockets anyway. :)

2014/11/15

computer and email woes and thoughts on being thoughtful

I've spent the past few days catching up on replying to all the emails I haven't replied to since June. This post is about some of my excuses and some thoughts I've had in the process. 

For a long time we've had computer issues. We knew it was the fan going out. It's now the third one we've replaced in just over two years. GRRRR.  The loud, obnoxious clicking made me not want to sit and write. Plus, there was the frequent overheating and shutting down. But the added issue of our two-continent life is that we have an encrypted hard drive and secure servers and yadda yadda yadda and all that takes SO LONG to sign in to. So, when it shuts down, I give up. 

Here is my handsome husband taking apart our computer and replacing the fan.


And then we only have one email inbox. James and I have VERY DIFFERENT email filing styles. My style is leave things in the inbox that need replied to. Everything else, once dealt with, gets filed in appropriately named files or deleted. James' style is leave everything in the inbox. He argues finding something you need can be searched for by date or name or whatever. He differentiates "done" stuff with "to do" stuff by leaving the "to do" stuffed marked unread. VERY DIFFERENT STYLES.

I've also had no emotional energy. Not to engage or call or write blogs or respond politely. But, it's getting better so I'm getting back in the swing of things. 

The computer is fixed now. I've cleaned out about 250 of the 2000+ emails in our inbox. We'll keep enduring our shared inbox. And I'm feeling more able to engage. 

But I've been thinking of all I've missed out on engaging in over the past few months. I'm not just  talking about replying to emails. I've also got a list of thank you notes I truly want to write. I've also missed birthdays and anniversaries and other occasions that I want people to know I remembered or that I thought of them. I want to be known as being thoughtful. But that word is weird. The thing is, when one does something like make a call, write a note, or recognize a special occasion, he/she is doing more than being thoughtful. He/she is being actionful. I'm actually quite thoughtful. Even in China, I think of my friends and family in the States and I always think about how I should get a package in the mail, or write an actual hand-written letter. I am thoughtful, but I just don't always muster up the action to put with my thoughts.

I had a goal for 2014 to write one hand-written letter a month. I think I got one, maybe two, done. I bought a card to send to my sister-in-law and intended to send so that it would arrive on the first day she got to being staying home with her twin boys. The card is still unwritten, sitting in a stack with the rest of my stationery. 

I'm not really sure what my point is with all these words. I' don't think I want us all to start using the word actionful instead of thoughtful. I think I just want to be more conscious to carve out the time each day to put action to my thoughts.


2014/11/02

Clovis Zoo

Since we've been in Clovis, we've been trying to take in all this little city has to offer. We've also loved hosting our family who have come to visit. When my (Jill's) parents were here, we took the girls to the Hillcrest Park Zoo. For this little city, it's quite impressive. And you can't beat $10 entrance fee for five of us!
We tried to take advantage of having someone here to take a family photo. This is about as cooperative as our girls get. 



This is the face Ann has been making recently. Squinting her eyes, giggling, and tucking her head down. It's becoming her signature look.

The peacocks were roaming free! The girls were not as impressed with them as the grown-ups.
The monkeys (and other monkey-like animals) were the clear favorite.

Ann, if there's one cage you don't want to escape your stroller for, THIS IS IT!